The ones I am talking about aren't necessarily the ones who like to have a lot of things and do not give to charity. That is selfish, but only in one way. That the kind of self that can come from years of having nothing and I understand it. Many people in the world think only about money and possessions because it is the world we have created and it isn't exactly character defining.
The kind of selfish I really hate is more subtle. It is when a person talks about themselves for hours and never stops to ask how anyone around them is doing. When that same person can't figure out why no-one likes them. For example, if a day goes by and no-one talks to a selfish person, they might figure it is because they must have done something to deserve this treatment and pout because no-one wants to be their friend.
It is that type of person I want to smack. Wake up! The world doesn't revolve around you. Perhaps you should say hello to someone and ask them how their day is going. Selfish people expect everyone to be their friend and come to them to massage their egos, lick their fancies and tickle their nipples. I think these people don't understand how disrespectful they are to people around them and overall how toxic their personalities are.
I made a decision a few weeks ago, after a couple of my "friends" did something completely self centered and selfish, that I have no need for these type of people in my life. I know that when I was young I was like this - when I was an adolescent I treated people like shit. I realized it, though, and I couldn't keep any friends very close to me. I was oversensitive and thought that everything was about me. I wanted everyone to listen to me all of the time and paid very little time and attention to my friend's needs. I was also very focused on my relationships with men. I would ditch a friend in a millisecond, regardless of the situation, if I thought I might be able to land a man.
Women out there - you don't need to behave like this. Be good to the people around you, be good to yourselves, and a good man will respect you for it. You will find yourself surrounded by good people and happy. There is no reason to think about only yourself - although there is a good argument for making sure you come first. Be sure you don't let yourself get walked over by people without being a selfish bitch.
Ahhhh. Rant over.
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